What if everything is Awesome

  How to begin a healthy relationship? 10  Pieces of advice to my 16-year-old self Winning someone's sexual attention is quite easy. But winning someone's attention and unravel his curiosity for your personality is an entirely different thing. We are talking of another realm of emotions and motives for actions. When I was a teenage girl, I thought that winning someone is when you succeed to get him into your bed. What I did not get is that I received something different from what I intended to gain. What actually I was looking for, was someone to make me feel better about myself, feel more attractive, more beautiful, sexier, smarter, more sophisticated. All men will throw all kinds of compliments to have you. What I really wanted was to feel appreciated, not to feel lonely.  For many years I was angry at my mother that did not teach me that basic lesson about sexuality versus love. If I could, I would tell my 16-year-old self this: 1. First, feel good with yourself. You ...

Should I do whatever I want? What is the difference between a craving and a passion? Which of my wishes I should follow and which I should ignore? As a young woman and a teenage girl, I made a lot of mistakes by making decisions based on a faulty premise: "I should do whatever comes to mind". Only at the age of 27 and after a lot of sores I've made my heart, I  understood what I was doing wrong all my life! There are 3 main categories of wishes and desires: 1.  "Wishes from the heart": Your true passions and things that are aligned with your true self. For example: Writing makes me feel good, I wish to be a writer. I really like this guy's personality and I'd like to get to know him better and make some good memories together. I love the beach, and adventures, I wish to save money and travel the world to tropical islands. 2.  "Wishes from the body": Your wishes, momentary egoistic bodily craves, that come and go. For example: I want sugar NOW. ...

  How To Stay Sane In Insane Situations Step 1 - Stop: Before you run to solve everything, stop for a while all of your rollercoaster of thoughts. Never act from a point of stress and overwhelm, take a moment to relax, take a deep breath and only then decide what to do next. When you stop all processes and let your mind calm down for at least 10 minutes, you will open a space for clarity. Allow yourself at least 10 minutes of just sitting down and not thinking at all. Let go for just 10 minutes of all your problems and emotions, what someone said to you, what you did to someone. Let yourself just BE for a little while. Let all the shouting voices in your head die out, leaving only the quiet and calm one, and listen only to it. Step 2 -   Journal, brain dump: Now, take a notebook and write down all that is coming to your mind, don't stop until you finish 2 or 3 full  pages. After this, you will feel relief from the number of problems you think you have. Now you will be abl...

8 Helpful Ways To Get Out Of A Negative Loop Fast 1. Stop thinking about and analyzing yourself: When you stop all thinking processes you open a place of mindful choice of your next thought. Usually, when I realize a string of dumb actions and decisions, I start self-analyzing, which never helped me to avoid the next dumb action. When I spend much of my time thinking "how I am", I miss opportunities to make things right. These opportunities will always come up and be available to us to pick them up and act on them, but if we are focused on self analyzation all the time we will miss them. What to do instead? Focus on the reality without referring it to yourself and how you or others will see you. For example: "I should offer my husband to prepare him a sandwich for work because if I don't, I am a selfish wife". Instead: "How does my husband feel right now? what does he want and need? what would make him happy?" It is not as simple as it seems when tryi...

  Energy efficiency: How to be more energized throughout the day?  How to be more energy efficient? How to be more mindful about spending energy? Top 10 energy wasting things you must avoid: The physical aspect: 1. Lack of mindful sleep timing: Lack of set sleeping and waking time: Our brain creates automated sets of actions, it includes timing the "wake up" command and the "sleep" command. We can work either with  or against  our brain. If we work against it, we inefficiently waste energy. But if we decide to work with it and use its power we can accumulate more energy for other, more important tasks in our day. To work with the brain we should understand the importance of automation. Give the brain consistency and a fixed pattern and it will do the work for you. You actually can teach your brain to automatically send certain hormones through your body at a certain time. Actions to take: Set a fixed and realistic "fall asleep" and "wake up" time...

  The power of the 3: Journaling, Meditating, and Reading. In more than 10 years of journaling, trying all kinds of meditation, and reading all sorts of different books, I've come to the ultimate combination of the three to make all components work. Journaling Here's the best guide I have ever seen about journaling Some  of the benefits of journaling: Builds pattern of thought -  Helps to build a stable and fluent pattern of thought. Making processing thoughts a more rational and consistent stream, rather than gasps of inconsistent wind swirls. You will notice with time your thoughts are more organized as sentences that are easier to listen to and understand than before. Builds self-awareness -  Awareness of emotions, and awareness of actions and their outcomes. Mirrors your mind to you -   when practicing it right, and with full honesty and zero censorship. Helps process information and emotions - We constantly receive a huge stream of information into our...

Question: My partner tells me I am responsible for how I feel, especially when I'm upset. What does it mean to be responsible for your feeling and for your life? How do I take responsibility for my life? You should be very proud of yourself for asking this question, it means you are already taking responsibility for your life in asking "HOW". The most important things you should acknowledge first: You ARE the creator of your reality. You have the power to CHOOSE your reactions no matter what the trigger is. You attract MORE of what you ARE. Where your thoughts are is where you are headed. You have the power to decide how to feel at any given moment. When asking how do I take responsibility for my life, you are actually asking how to create the life that I want, and not live the life that I am given. How do I choose how I live instead of reacting automatically?   How to create your desired reality? The simple answer is CHOOSE every step, CHOOSE your responses, your thought...