5 Steps: How to Stay Sane in Insane Situations

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How To Stay Sane In Insane Situations


Step 1 - Stop:

Before you run to solve everything, stop for a while all of your rollercoaster of thoughts.
Never act from a point of stress and overwhelm, take a moment to relax, take a deep breath and only then decide what to do next.
When you stop all processes and let your mind calm down for at least 10 minutes, you will open a space for clarity.
Allow yourself at least 10 minutes of just sitting down and not thinking at all. Let go for just 10 minutes of all your problems and emotions, what someone said to you, what you did to someone.
Let yourself just BE for a little while.

Let all the shouting voices in your head die out, leaving only the quiet and calm one, and listen only to it.


Step 2 - Journal, brain dump:

Now, take a notebook and write down all that is coming to your mind, don't stop until you finish 2 or 3 full pages.
After this, you will feel relief from the number of problems you think you have.
Now you will be able to see more clearly some ideas of solutions. It's ok that you don't have a full plan just yet, ideas of direction of action are good enough for now.


Step 3 - Affirmation and self-compassion:

Encourage yourself, you are the person who has the most power to change your life, it depends on your decisions. Be kind to yourself, when you talk to yourself inside your head.
Say to yourself positive and encouraging things like:

I can.
I am enough
I am good and I will grow into an even better person
It is ok to make mistakes, take it as experience and grow from it
It is ok to feel bad for a while
I value myself and my well-being so I choose to let go of bad feelings
I see clearly the situation from both sides
Everything is unfolding as it should
I am never alone
I trust my guidance system


Step 4 - Let yourself be calm:

No matter what the situation is, it is most beneficial to you when you are calm. You are more efficient and clear about your actions when you are calm.

Step 5 - Think positive of the situation:

How can this situation benefit me in the future?
For example:
When I am being kicked out of the house it can be good for me as a wake-up call on changing my life for the better. Maybe getting out of a negative environment, or pushing me towards a more deliberate living of my life, towards deliberate choices of directions in my life.
Another example:
When my husband gets angry and yells at me (which is not ok in itself) I can choose to see my situation from a different angle and see that I can improve a lot in this topic we did not agree upon.
Another example: 
A fight with my mother can lead to resolution, it can be the trigger to a drastic change in the relationship. You can always look at situations from several different points of view. 
All arguments and fights can be seen as friction with the reality that can positively push you forward.
This is your power of resilience, anything can be a push-up trigger or a push-down rock - it is your choice.


I hope these tips were helpful, they are all from personal experience and helped me many times.

Share with me in a comment:
What is your way to deal with overwhelming situations?


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