ResponsAbility - What does it mean to be Responsible for my Life?

Question:

My partner tells me I am responsible for how I feel, especially when I'm upset. What does it mean to be responsible for your feeling and for your life? How do I take responsibility for my life?

You should be very proud of yourself for asking this question, it means you are already taking responsibility for your life in asking "HOW".

The most important things you should acknowledge first:

1. You ARE the creator of your reality.
2. You have the power to CHOOSE your reactions no matter what the trigger is.
3. You attract MORE of what you ARE.
4. Where your thoughts are is where you are headed.
5. You have the power to decide how to feel at any given moment.

When asking how do I take responsibility for my life, you are actually asking how to create the life that I want, and not live the life that I am given. How do I choose how I live instead of reacting automatically?

 

How to create your desired reality?

The simple answer is CHOOSE every step, CHOOSE your responses, your thoughts, your attitude towards everything in your life.

How do I get to choose my responses and thoughts?

The simple answer is to be mindful.

 

Explain..?

For you to be able to catch yourself on unwanted responses and thoughts is to be mindful of them.

The first step of taking responsibility is to start being AWARE of your thoughts.

Your thoughts create emotions, and emotions are vibration. Your vibration creates your reality. So if you have negative and self hindering thoughts in your mind, start with acknowledging them, removing them, and replacing them with the content you want.

So when you consciously create a vibration that is aligned with how you want to FEEL, you create the base for everything you want in life.

How to be MINDFUL of my thoughts and vibration?

It is so pleasing to know yourself. This is one of the ways to do it:

1. Journaling - Start writing down ALL of your thoughts in a journal daily. Here is a perfect explanation of how to write morning pages. In about a month you will see how much more mindful you are of yourself than at the beginning of this process. It is like looking in the mirror.
2. Meditate - After you know what is going on in your mind, practice stillness and the absence of thought. Here is a video that can help to direct you. When you practice the absence of thought you open a new and clean space for everything that you DO want.
3. Visualize - Answer yourself how would you rather feel at any given moment. Just ask yourself "how would I prefer to feel?". 
4. Educate yourself and fill the space - Look for more knowledge, always look to educate yourself more about what is making you curious. Fill the open space you created with NEW knowledge that is serving you instead of old presumptions and old beliefs.

How do I create my new identity and stay authentic? Is it not a lie I'm telling myself? Is it ok to pretend I am someone I am yet not?

See that you are not striving to create an identity that is detached from who you are. Instead, you are moving towards your true self, the self you really want to be, not what you want others to see. Be mindful that you are like a hidden diamond that you are polishing, and with time and consistency, you will reveal your true inner diamond, clean from other people's opinions, beliefs, and expectations.

For example, you have in your life a person with whom you consistently argue about something, and the result is always the same (I believe it is never your desired result). When you practice mindfulness and choosing responses you will be in the same situation, but this time you will choose a different response. Then, after trying different ways to respond on different subjects will you, step by step, improve your life and get to where you actually want to be.