My Path - How do I know what is the right thing to do?

Question:

I am confused and feel uncertain and totally off-balance in my life right now, what should I do? How do I know what is the right thing for me to do?

 It depends where you are right now emotionally and how aligned you are to yourself.

The most important things you should acknowledge first:

1. You can ALWAYS receive guidance from the universe/ from within yourself.
2. You have the ability to shift your emotions and thoughts in an instant by merely willing it.
3. Nothing works out as you would want it to when acting from negative emotions and rush.
4. Your inner being ALWAYS knows what is the best thing for you at any given moment, you only need to hear it.

When asking how do I know what is the right thing for me to do, you are actually asking for a feeling of clarity and confidence.

 

How to gain clarity?

The simple answer is you need to get into a certain state of mind and only from that place you would be able to HEAR your inner guidance.

What is the right state of mind I need to be in to gain clarity?

The simple answer is calm, peaceful, patient, quiet.

 

Explain..?

Your inner being always knows what is best for you, so your quest is to get into that state where you can hear its voice.
When you are in an emotional mess, the amount of irrelevant noise in your mind is immense.
You would be totally confused if trying to follow all these voices' advice. You probably know exactly what I am talking about and how it feels. Let dig into this just for a bit to set this right.
You hear a yelling voice of yourself shouting inside your head to do or not do something, you wince when hearing it as a child scolded by his parent. This voice comes when you are in fear, stress, rush, and anger. Sometimes you feel as if to avoid it you should rush even more, run faster. The right thing to do is to STOP, then they won't catch you.
The second type of voice you would hear is other people's voices. They would declare their opinions about things you do, about certain thoughts you have, about certain people you choose to hang out with. This comes when you feel shame, regret, confusion. In this state, you would want to hide from yourself. The solution here is again to STOP, then they all die out.

The third type of voice is the quietest and rare. It speaks its words of pictures only once. You can hear it only when you pay enough attention when you quiet everything else.

 

How to just STOP?

This is a wonderful question because when you stop, you set yourself free. Hear this - In stoping you  set your life going.

How to STOP:

1. Stop anything you are doing at that moment, turn off any music, turn off all on-going cooking/ working/ arguing/ walking/ running. Stop all thinking processes.
2. Take a deep breath, exhale and move your attention to your heartbeat, concentrate only on it.
3. Keep breathing deeply until you can hear and feel every heartbeat.
4. Say to yourself: "When I am peaceful and quiet, I trust the universe to take care of everything outside my control. When I am peaceful and quiet, I feel good inside myself no matter what happens outside, I trust myself to be who I am".
5. Don't rush it. Breathe and quiet your mind until all that is not in this inner point of your attention dissolves away.
6. Now, when you feel good and safe inside yourself, ASK. Ask the question that will lead you to your desired answer.
7. Keep breathing and concentrating on your heart, don't rush any answers, relax and allow the pictures in your mind to move in front of your eyes like a movie. Look at them without judgment.
8. Feel inside "What would be the most fun and easy thing to do? Where is the path of least resistance?"

How do I know I'm am not just avoiding work or important arguments or anything important? I can't just run away from my problems!

You are right, but you actually do in this, call it "exercise" is shifting your entire mindset, getting outside the bubble, outside the situation, and then you make yourself available to a new point of view, new ideas, new perspective, and you are opening yourself to a more suitable and agreeable path for you.

For example, in an argument with someone, you feel caught up in his loop of thought, from which point you cannot possibly come to a productive and healthy solution or resolution. What you do is you choose to get outside the situation and get into the point from which the best of you comes out.